Friday Writer's Tarot
Today’s message comes from the Two of Cups, drawn from the Everyday Witch Tarot.
Key Words: Partnership, Balance, Attraction, Cooperation, Love.
A lot of people associate the Two of Cups with romantic love. I don’t reject that reading, but I don’t think it’s the entire story.
Of course, if you’re a romance writer, this is obviously a great card to get. Especially if you’ve been thinking about starting work on a romance project. If you’ve been thinking about partnering with someone to co-write a project, this is also a good message. So if that’s what you need to hear, the universe has spoken.
For everyone else:
When I pulled this card, I got a strong sense that message that I need to share about this card has more to do with self-love than romantic love or business partnerships.
There’s a concept in magic of “As above so below.” Everything is connected. What you want to manifest outside needs to first exist inside.
See, you can’t love other people in a healthy way until you love yourself in a healthy way. What’s that got to do with writing? Well, if you’re a writer, then writing is part of your self-care. If you’re like me, you just feel more balanced when you’ve been writing regularly.
Lately, I’ve been thinking about love and responsibility. I grew up in a family where the two concepts are intertwined. Love is often treated as a burden. Martyring oneself to a loved one is the ultimate love language.
I’ve been doing deep work on the idea of self-betrayal. When I focus too much on proving my love to others by putting myself last, I end up ruining my creativity, my productivity and my joy.
Martyred love is codependency. Real love doesn’t require you to betray yourself—it’s joyful and generous. That’s not to say it’s always easy, but it shouldn’t always feel like your life force is being drained from your body.
So my message to you, today, is to make sure that you are a good partner to yourself. Prioritize your needs. Write first. Get up earlier than usual and spend 10 minutes meditating before the kids get up. Go to bed 30 minutes earlier so you can read. Turn off your phone and tune into your life.
I know it’s hard right now, friends. Trust me. I’ve had my share of days hiding my head under the covers. But I’ve come to realize that in order to be a good ally for myself, I need to keep promises to myself first. That means writing most days. It means meditating. It means making the damned bed because a made bed makes me feel like I have something together.
I’ve also been limiting my contact with people who only call me when they need money or advice or to dump their problems in my lap. Those people may be related to me, but they do not love generously or joyfully. And I deserve that kind of love from people in my life.
Especially from myself.
P.S. You do, too.
Happy writing, friends.